How Free Do You Want TO Be #2: Step 0

Have you done Step 0 yet?

Every change process begins with being DONE…

Done with doing whatever you are doing that is making you sad, unhappy or frustrated.

If you want to get clean and sober, you have to be done drinking and using…A shift must happen that compels you to manifest that, no matter what, you will not drink or use. The change happens when the idea drops from your head to your heart…

The same applies to anything else we want to change…weight loss, bad relationships, financial difficulty, anything can change when ‘No Matter What’ becomes the operational principle.

The first three steps of a 12-step program involve admission of powerlessness and unmanageability, belief in something greater than oneself (higher power) and a decision to turn one’s thoughts and actions over to that larger influence. That sounds great but requires a shift before any of that can happen. At least that’s what happened to me and appears to hold true for many of the people I’ve worked with in recovery and in coaching.

At least three years before I quit drinking, I knew I was powerless over alcohol and my life was unmanageable. I wasn’t actually conscious of that until a year before I quit drinking but time and introspection have revealed that I “knew” for a long time. I also believed in God and tried to turn my will and my life (my thoughts and my actions) over on a daily basis. But I was never successful until I was DONE.

It wasn’t a decision or a choice…I just knew I couldn’t go on doing what I was doing. This was the beginning of my journey to freedom. And you can join me anytime…

Everyday is filled with opportunities to choose…an hour, a minute a second at a time. How do you want your future to look? If you are done, then you have choices…

News flash…Your future begins now…choose not to have that ”hair of the dog” this time, choose to get up and go for a walk instead of eating that whatever makes you feel better for a second then ultimately makes you feel so much worse, choose emotional sobriety over that same old argument, choose to engage in altruism and to not make that impulse purchase that doesn’t actually fill the hole in your soul. Get DONE with being the manufacturer of your own misery…and if you think you’re not because you think that someone else is making you unhappy, choose to stop giving away your power by abdicating responsibility through expectations of others.

Do Step 0 and set your feet on the path to freedom and true personal power.

HOW FREE DO YOU WANT TO BE?

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Love yer guts, Frannie